Guys are particularly notorious for this, but I think it’s safe to say that most people are generally guilty of it. When we are uncomfortable in some shape or form; we tend to act (or react, rather) with an ugly attitude. It generally manifests itself in frustrated responses and impatience. Our spouses, who usually know the reason why we’re grumpy, then is subject to our mood until we can figure out how to get comfortable again.

 What do I mean by uncomfortable? Uncomfortable situations can run the gamut from being hungry, hot, cold, sick, exhausted – you name it. And with the general day to day operations of life there is a potentiality to land in any of these circles at almost any given time. I’m usually guilty of this when I’m sick or at times when I feel rushed. If I’m sick I am usually short-tempered and frustrated – not really wanting to talk a whole lot. And when I’m feeling rushed or that I’m going to be late – I feel uncomfortable and act out in impatient ways. I will give the silent treatment.

 But that fact that I came to this realization recently made me think how unfair this is. Just because my comfort is violated doesn’t give me the right to upset the house and the positive vibes. Why should my spouse have to bear the burden of “being the bigger person” until I’m comfortable? The message to myself (and you) is to GROW UP! Just because you’re hungry, doesn’t license you to go on a rampage until you’re fed. And you’re not the only one exhausted – don’t be selfish. I challenge you to become aware of the areas where you are “uncomfortable” and try to be proactive to avoid your frustration. At least not taking it out on your spouse and family. If you can’t think of an area, ask your spouse, I bet they will be able to help you with that list.

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